Charlie: I’m sure your Microphone caught in the background like PFFF
Arthur: I hope not.
You want to talk with foreigners and make friends.
And you know meetup.com is a great way to find opportunities to do that.
But with a lot of my students, there were worries.
Once you get there, what do you say? How can you talk with people?
This is especially difficult for shy people.
I know, trying to start a conversation, at first, seems really difficult.
But actually, it is very easy if you just know how to do it.
In some of my other content, I’ve taught you the key to starting conversations with people that you don’t know.
In order to talk with someone, there needs to be something that you have in common. And, actually, at Meetup, this is very easy. If you are attending a non-Eikaiwa meetup, you already have something in common with the other person:
The topic of the meetup!
If it’s about cooking, you can talk about cooking.
If it’s about coffee, you can talk about coffee.
If it’s about jogging, then you can, well then, talk about jogging together.
But there’s also something else you have in common, too.
You both are joining the same meetup!
So when you try and start a conversation with someone, you can introduce yourself and then ask a question based on these two topics:
1. The common interest that you have that made you want to come to the meetup.
2. Coming to the meetup itself.
I recommend talking about coming to the meetup itself, because the questions are very simple. After you introduce yourself, you can say something like:
Remember, if you say something like “why did you come here?”
It sounds kind of mean or it sounds like you don’t want them to be there.
So instead of saying “why did you come here?” You can say “what made you want to come here?”
If you want to talk about the common interest that you have, after you introduce yourself, you can say something like:
Now, just asking questions doesn’t make a conversation.
You need to have a couple other things, too.
After you hear what the other person says, you need to give them a good 相槌.
And then tell something related to yourself：
This is just the first step in having a conversation with a foreigner.
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Until next time, enjoy your English adventures. Bye!
Charlie: I’m scared to say anything, because I know I’m going to be in the bloopers.
Arthur: No dude, it’s great. People will be like “oh, who’s this guy?” And then when you show up in my stuff they’ll be like “あ、そのチャーリーなんだ”